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In our patriarchal society, men often try to commandeer the debate concerning abortion and women’s health. We men need to listen to women with open ears and open hearts. Here are 5 ways to do that. […] Read More

Sadly, women not being believed by powerful men isn’t new. The Bible shows repeatedly how women, regarded as scriptural heroes today, weren’t believed by men in a patriarchal society. […] Read More

The hearings about Judge Brett Kavanaugh’s nomination to the Supreme Court displayed the patriarchal power of a ruling class demanding its entitlement be respected and insulting victims of sexual abuse. […] Read More

There is an ongoing debate in evangelical circles between two views of the proper relationship between husbands and wives as prescribed by the Bible. The first is complementarianism, which asserts that the husband is the head of the household and holds ultimate authority over the family. The wife plays a complementary role in managing the […] Read More

The murder of a member of a family, generally a woman, by another member of the family because of the perception that the person has brought shame to the family is known as “honor killing.” This practice has made international headlines twice in May. I wrote about the tragic story of a woman in Afghanistan […] Read More

Hierarchical paradigms shape our thinking about the world in which we live.   We tend to view relationships as levels on a pyramid, constantly assessing whether we are above, below or equal to others in intelligence, education, popularity, wealth, attractiveness, health, talent, power, importance, family or even spirituality.   Competitiveness seems hard-wired inside our brains. […] Read More

Hierarchy is the primary foundation of the world’s systems. Military model. Corporate model. Winners vs. losers. Rich vs. poor. Powerful vs. weak.   The reason hierarchy prevails is because it works so well for us. It’s what we’re used to. It’s what we know. We’re so wrapped up in our hierarchical, pyramid-like thinking that it’s […] Read More

Several years ago I was introduced to the term “church wife,” a paradigm of a 1950s woman who does the main work of keeping a home or church running efficiently, but is never allowed a leadership role or title (head of household, deacon, ministerial staff, pastor) typically reserved for men. Even today, congregations everywhere are […] Read More

Spiritual writer Richard Rohr has observed that in recent centuries most churches have been on the wrong side of most human reformations and revolutions – until after these reformations succeeded.   Consider the issue of civil rights: Many churches in America remained silent while many others either overtly or covertly worked against just legislation and […] Read More

For me, the shortest step away from fundamentalism came with the realization that life within my family bore little resemblance to the idyllic paternalistic household that fundamentalist preachers portrayed as the biblical model for the home.   Father didn’t know best at my home. Dad was more relational than analytic. He was great with kids […] Read More